So everyone always says "Just be yourself, you should be loved just as you are!" And while that is true, what they don't mention is the simple act of loving and being loved changes you. Being in any meaningful relationship changes your perception. It introduces new ideas, causes you to like things you never thought you would, dislike things you thought you liked... both about your partner and yourself. Certainly these transformations can be devastating, they are often painful... but If you chose wisely, hopefully they will be good in the end.